The past 96 hours have been some of the most stressful, anxious, and rewarding of my life.
Wednesday evening, following my first read of Rick Remender’s Captain America #22, I posted a series of entries to my blog reiterating my distaste for his work, and my renewed (and long-held) belief that he should no longer be writing it.
In my haste and anger, I asked other people who shared my opinion to tweet Marvel Comics, Rick Remender, and Captain America editor Tom Brevoort with their concerns, using the hashtag #FireRickRemender.
And I’m sorry.
I understand that the hashtag, and the arguments held under its banner, could have been (and were) seen as personal attacks. And for that, I apologize. I was coming from a place of upset, discomfort, disgust, and outrage, and I acted solely from that place.
I am genuinely sorry for any personal affront my actions may have caused.
What I am not sorry for is everything that came afterward.
I can’t decide if this is the best or the worst dad ever
If a man wakes up every day to put on a costume SOLELY to wave his child off to school, he is a dedicated father and truly one of the best out there, even tho this probably embarrassed the shit out of his kid
Today in Sweatshop, a dude with an anonymous username came into chat and started monologuing about himself, and his tone and cadence immediately struck me as Off enough that I asked him who he was and how he got there. He refused to answer, then told me I “wore too much makeup” and that “makeup causes cancer”.
Anyway I had to kickban him twice, but the moral of this story is that I can tell instantly when someone is going to be trouble and I really wish I had not had to develop this superpower at all. But here we are.
update: no surprises here
Got this today from a female friend, again completely unsurprisingly:
And then this, unsolicited, and unsurprisingly, from ol’ creepy sean:
So there you have it: Sean Moriva is a creep who is harassing women in our social circle and probably outside of it, too. email@example.com
edit: his tumblr name is moniker42linksdump
Sorry to keep posting about this, but I am just completely sick of women having to tiptoe around their harassers because of fear of retribution, and because it’s considered worse to call out sexual harassment than it is to actually endure it.
Here’s another message about Sean I got tonight:
It goes on to describe some fairly threatening behavior which I was asked not to publish for fear of outing the person who sent it to me.
Special thanks to AshtonW for pointing out the exact moment when I clocked this stupid fuckboy the first time. Notice the fixation on how I dress (desire to control my body):
His username on Instagram (he’s been following me there, too) is janjanszoon, and here are some nice public photos of him for id purposes:
Eat shit and die, Sean.
this dipshit keeps emailing me and other women despite being told clearly to stop, multiple times, so let’s just reblog this again for posterity. Sean Moriva is a mega creep, potentially dangerous, and has harassed/threatened multiple women of my acquaintance. I received a message that he offered “calming vitamins” to one of his irl targets, so we’re dealing with a person who is potentially attempting to drug people.
You are making progress in a spiral. You do come back around to where you were at the start, since recovery and healing take time, but every time you come back around to that point you’re a little higher up because you’ve got more experience, more knowledge, and more strength.
So why don't feminists shave their armpits and stuff? It's not like MEN force you to do it, and like as a girl it's uncomfortable and holds more sweat and just ew. I don't know if you're braver or just lazier than the average girl
alright i don’t normally reply to these but im feelin chatty so here goes
first of all, underarm hair helps ventilate sweat, control odor, and does a great job of keepin moisture away from the skin!! its 10x more physically comfy for me believe it or not!!
now, let’s have a short history lesson here, and keep in mind that we’re talking about westernized white women because in many places and cultures this phenomenon simply does not apply
moving onward, ladies shaving their armpits didnt really catch on until around the 1920s and this was almost entirely sparked because marketing companies wanted to double the demographic they could sell razors to. to kickstart it, they released this scandalous picture in Harper’s Bazaar in 1915:
which first planted the seed. at the time, the photo was extremely risque as it was really the first time a womans bare underarm had been shown in American media that wasnt pornographic. the word “underarm” itself was shocking! in a very deliberate move, they’d paired a revolutionary photo with a trend they wished to sell. in 1922 sears released “female” razors and it eventually trickled down to the middle class and the lower class with time, as fashion trends often do. turns out, the war against armpit hair was one of the most successful business campaigns ever!!
wanting to follow in these footsteps, they worked on leg hair. women still didnt begin shaving their legs until around 1943. even those iconic flappers who wore short hemlines still sported fuzzy legs! Daisy Fay Buchanan was probably a furry gal herself.
a part of the hesitation for a woman to shave her legs was that she would appear more promiscuous because the legs are so indicative of the vulva. alas, after WWII, Betty Grable posed for this sexy image:
and eventually the look went from celebrities to other patriotic girls and then to everyone else.
what do both have in common you ask??? they were both deliberately manufactured propaganda made by white men for the sole reason of making money by exploiting women.
im not telling you what you should or should not do with your body and all the hair that grows on it. its ok if shaving makes you feel more feminine or clean. all im saying is that it’s a good idea to analyze why youve been lead to believe a little fuzz is so “ew” to you, and really think about whether it should be. it hasn’t always been this way (in fact it only recently became so) and im here to say it doesnt have to be that way either. take this knowledge and run with it but its ultimately your choice.
as for me, no, i wouldnt say im braver or lazier than the average girl. i just reject the idea that a bullshit made up westernized whitie can make my decisions for me. and personally, i find my kitten armpits exceptionally cute.
ill leave you with this my friend: if girls weren’t meant to have body hair then why do girl’s bodies grow hair ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Feminism: The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.
Pretty simple to support, huh? Man or woman. I think the only reason a person who believes in equality of the sexes would NOT call herself/himself a feminist is because of people who have distorted the perception of the word as a dirty and shameful label the past few decades. But if you reject the word based on how THEY have shaped the perception of it, in an insidious way, you’re letting them define you.
Go back to the REAL definition of the word, not THEIR distorted definition, and see if it is something you believe in. And can be proud to call yourself. Man OR woman. And go from there.
Because, if you break it down, if you are NOT a feminist, then you do NOT believe in equal rights for men and women. Is that what you believe? Or is it that you’re rejecting what the label has been distorted into?
It used to be that “geek” was a dirty word, too. A shameful label. Not anymore, thank goodness.
"Feminist" needs a transformation like that too. It’s overdue.
HAHAHA HOLY SHIT WE WERE LOOKING AT PICTURES OF SURGERIES IN CLASS AND ALL THE GUYS WERE HOOTING AT THE SLICED BREAST ONES AND THEN THE TEACHER SWITCHED TO A PENIS PIC WHERE IT WAS CUT OPEN AND SOME 300LB JOCK DOUCHEBAG FAINTED RIGHT OUT OF HIS CHAIR BOYS ARE WEAK BOYS ARE FUCKING WEAK
you mean to tell me
that there was a god damn CUT OPEN BOOB
AND BOYS WERE STILL SEXUALISING IT
FUCKING MOTHERFUCKING FUCK DOES NO ONE SEE HOW FUCKED UP THIS IS